On Shopping on Thanksgiving and PresenCE

PresentsIn many ways, my 19-year-old is just like I was at her age: strong-willed, precocious, and opinionated! She’s a VERY active and passionate participant in conversations and actions around equality and rights across the board, including gender, sexual preference, race… you name it. She’s also knowledgeable and very much an advocate of the environment, living in an integrated, healthy way. Basically, for quite awhile now, she’s verbally been ready to “right all of the wrongs of the world”! Sometimes, her limitation is that she can even be oversensitive to such topics, to the point that she’ll shut down in judgment and righteousness in the middle of a conversation because she’s so ignited and passionate about what’s being discussed (vs. being a productive contribution to the discussion).

She has quite the spark and fire! My husband and I have always had great conversations around these topics in our household, striving always to share a perspective on the bigger picture; overall, it’s great to know that our children are both such advocates in support of many of the things we also support… save for some maturity, temperance, and acceptance with a view of the larger picture that will naturally develop over time and experience and further assist in their clarity and motivation in a productive way.

This introduction to my daughter is to share with you her overall temperament before I talk about the actual topic at hand. It’s because she’s such a blatantly verbal advocate of such things that this created such a perfect scenario for discussion… and it’s not just a great lesson for her, but for everyone else, as well.

Part of our evolution and spiritual development – sometimes, what’s seemingly the most challenging part – is getting past the habits that we’ve repeated so many times over the eons that we’re often blind to them within ourselves. This is the fine print of consciousness, remembrance, and spiritual development – it’s truly “walking the walk” – remembering the whole picture in every choice that we make; remembering the interconnectedness of everything we do, that we, expressed as ourselves, have a plethora of individual lessons that are intertwined with the lessons of many others and of our collective, larger consciousness, as well.

While she’s in college, she’s been working a retail job part-time, and has been an exemplary employee. Last year, she had to work on Christmas Eve, and she was really upset about it since we have a multitude of Christmas Eve traditions we’ve developed over the years as a family. Being newly conscious of the choice between work and fun/nurturing with her family, she was very vocal about having to work on a holiday… and became hyper-aware of those having to do the same. She’s been a great support to those she works with ever since, being part of the coverage when something personal has come up for them (and vice versa).

Last night, after our Thanksgiving dinner and gathering was mostly concluded, she excused herself to go to a friend’s house with her boyfriend because it was the friend’s birthday. Later on, she texted me that they’d decided to go and “try out the shopping.”

When she got home later in the evening, I half-jokingly mentioned to her my disappointment that after all of her campaigning against retail having to work on holidays because of corporate greed and cultural manipulation… that she would essentially participate as part of the issue. Even though I was purposefully gentle in the pronouncement (because I knew it would hit home with her), she looked at me as if I’d slapped her, and her face immediately got red. She defended, “Oh, come on… you’ve participated in Black Friday shopping before…” To which I replied, “Yes, BLACK FRIDAY… which has been ‘a thing’ for a long time. However, TODAY is Thanksgiving… a day that we take a break, enjoy each other, and have gratitude for what’s in our lives. It’s not a shopping day; it’s a together day. You’ve now fed into what you so passionately speak against just by going to the stores and participating… because those people manning the stores are working instead of enjoying the day, enjoying the moment and enjoying themselves and others around them in a breath of presence as part of the holiday.”

Her response to that, “I had no choice.” (Implying that it’s what her friend wanted to do.)

My response: “You ALWAYS have a choice.” 

That ended the conversation; she got up and left the room. I wasn’t abrupt or condescending about it; I was simply pointing out to her what she so righteously and readily points out in others all the time. Her defensive reaction was definitely a trigger to her being aware of her own inauthenticity in the situation; I was guided to even gently bring it up as I did because this is a valuable lesson at this juncture in her life, at the brink of adulthood and being in conscious awareness of her own impact on the world – of the Universe – around her.

My daughter is an intuitive, intelligent, beautiful, caring, and passionate person… and 95% of the time, she’s there. Most of the time she gets it; that’s the point of me telling you all of this, because it’s an important interchange, an important experience that shows how easy it is to just be unconscious – even if just for one act, one moment – and follow others and what’s outside of the Self because it’s convenient… even for someone who is typically very conscious of what goes on around them and that interconnectedness. And how, in that one act, what the ego might rationalize as relatively unimportant (and convenient in the moment), when fed into by numerous others via the same “little” act, causes it to become part of a much bigger message that affects (and limits) the many vs. the few.

I’m not judging her; it was, in fact, her choice. However, I know that it’s not aligned with her authentic self and what she believes (the next time she mentions such injustices… I might very well remind her that she’s fed the fire herself!  😉 ). And, as with all interactions, it causes me to look in the mirror to see where this might be a reminder to be and stay fully conscious of my own actions, in all ways, at all times!

It’s a great reminder of how even the most conscious of us will ourselves to go “on automatic” or lock our consciousness – and sometimes our vigilance – in the closet temporarily often in the effort of a) the convenience of being exclusionary – “It’s not alright for me, but it’s OK for others, and/or b) being accepted by others, because of the individual belief that we need acceptance of others to be worthy, and that we have to have shared experiences to be accepted. It’s the same set of beliefs around the well-known adage of “misery loves company.”

We’ve all done it as part of this exclusionary existence; it’s been part of the lessons of separation and duality.

We’re not victim to others; we’re not victim to corporations… or institutions… or governments… it’s all our creation. Therefore, it’s also our choice to feed the frenzy… or not. It’s our choice to exist in a higher consciousness, aware of our interconnectivity… or not. And ultimately, it’s all OK… as long as we accept and take responsibility for creating that… ALL of it. We create it; we can change it. If we’re going to feed a creation… then we can’t claim to be victim to it; and we can’t be surprised when the reflection of whatever it brings to you later hits home to you in another, typically unexpected way.

The more conscious we are, the more in remembrance we exist, the more we realize that every single action we take reflects back to us; this is the former perception of, “what goes around comes around”… but instead of “being victim to” karma, it’s simply remembering that what we create in a Universe around us simply reflects what’s within us back to ourselves, and it will get louder and louder until we look at it straight on in the mirror.

As we embark on the end-of-year holiday season – regardless of individual practices and beliefs – let’s try something different than what’s typically “the norm”: Instead of being panicked about finances, panicked about having the “perfect gift” or an “expensive enough gift” to ensure someone else thinks highly of us, what if we purely focused on the gentle love and acceptance of ourselves? What if we blessed ourselves and others around us with the gift – worth more than anything in the physical – of being present with our Self, and with others, without expectations or judgment? This is what consciousness, awareness, and remembrance is all about. This is how we “walk the walk,” and do it differently… taking away the need to give away our power to others to gain “love” from outside of us because we don’t hold that within ourselves. If we do that – if we can remember the simple act of self love and authenticity – then everything around us will simultaneously change for the much, much better, as well.. and we’ll realize how powerful each one of us really is.

 

 

Words, the Arts, and Our Advancement of Consciousness

© Agsandrew | Dreamstime.comOver the past several years, I’ve watched so many, as they step into their spiritual remembrance and realize they’re ALLOWED to follow their passion, favor expression via some form of the arts – whether painting, sculpturing, music of all kinds, dancing, writing, you name it – and REALLY expand once they allow themselves to do so.

For so long, I’ve observed this, and wondered why, as our remembrance of existing in higher consciousness unfolds, this seems to be important. It’s always felt good… and it’s always felt necessary; yet, according to the “3D standards,” the arts are generally a “nice to have” vs. a “necessary” part of our existence.

However, in my heart, I’ve always felt, “Of course,” even though I hadn’t yet remembered why.

My personally favored “art” – though I love many of them – is writing. I have much to write, it comes easily to me, and I know I consciously convey so much more energetically with the energy and remembrance I infuse in my words, than the words do in themselves.

Recently, I came across an article talking about author Stephen King’s tips on “How to Be a Great Writer.” One of the 22 very good points in this article was, “Understand that writing is a form of telepathy.”

‘All the arts depend upon telepathy to some degree…an important element… is transference. Your job isn’t to write words on the page, but rather to transfer the ideas inside your head into the heads of your readers…

Words are just the medium through which the transfer happens…’

Bingo!

It’s sometimes been a little disheartening to see some struggle with their heart being set on some form of arts, yet their mind (ego) telling them that it’s an “unimportant” pursuit in the bigger scheme of things… as the 3D world (friends, family, culture, you name it) will tell them this is so. I’ve watched them get a good start and then see their effort falter and sometimes regress – or go completely defunct –  as their ego causes them to question their worth, and tells them that they would be better suited to “put that on the back burner” to pursue “world-worthy efforts” instead; this assures the ego of the individual’s value in 3-4D society. I recently saw the lamenting of a fantastic artist I know – who REALLY infuses her intuition and Higher Consciousness/Remembrance into her art – mentioning she’d gone through a tough period of feeling down about herself because she was “just an artist.”

So, let’s step away from that for a moment, and observe it. My understanding is that our focus now is to progress BEYOND the “traditional” and REPETITIVE rise and fall of the 3-4D; time to allow the management of existence from a fully integrated consciousness, including from our 5th dimensional Self and above (TO NOTE: Yes, we ALL have that; the 1-4D versions of our Self is just a TINY piece of the whole of our consciousness, and yet, our lessons before now have been generally been to allow the separation-driven energies of the 1-4D rule our experience in those planes, while we’ve just gone about our other lessons in higher consciousness). Now, it’s time to bring it altogether, ALL consciousness apparent at ALL levels.

As I often discuss with others, all “things” that exist in the 1-4D have been Divine tools of expression that we’ve created for these kinds of lessons. We’re the Divine expressed as we are for these lessons. The separation-based existence we’ve pursued here is based from there possibly being something OUTSIDE of us – and we often and mostly forget here that all of that which is OUTSIDE of us is created from the Divine WITHIN us… simply tools that remind us how to consciously and purposely access that within ourselves. Eventually, as we remember that… we let go of the tools.

Words, art, music, and movement are some of the MOST POWERFUL tools we’ve created!

They’re based in the heart; in the intuition; and, when allowed to be fully expressed, allow the consciousness of the Higher Self to shine through… helping ALL who have exposure to it to tap into that part of themselves. It’s with these media that we convey so many feelings and understandings – and Remembrance – that are so, so, SO much bigger than the 3D representations in themselves!

As we progress down the path of our Remembrance of Higher Consciousness here in our 1-4D Self, in the 3D world, my understanding is that we’ve cycled so many times – Remembered and “fell,” to start/cycle over again – that we’ve completed these lessons, and it’s time to do things differently. We’ve gotten lost, over and over, in the pursuit of the mind, the pursuit of separation… and now it’s time to Remember the pursuit of the Spirit, the heart, and connectedness while simultaneously completing these lessons in such separation.

Since the practice of the Arts – of all kinds – brings forward, in its full glory, the reflection of the Spirit and Higher, connected Consciousness… then THAT would make it one of the MOST IMPORTANT practices to honor in the 3D world, foregoing all of the “mind-based” pursuits we’ve come to love so much, in the pursuit of separation!

Why? Because the Arts help us to Remember.

The more we allow ourselves to exist in connectedness and Oneness as we pursue our individual journeys here at the consciousness level of this particularly separation-based Universe, the FASTER we will collectively attain our goal of transcending the barriers on which we’ve previously tripped in forgetfulness. The individual connection to this connectedness that comes through via the Arts, the amazing tools in this category that we’ve created as a REMINDER here, actually help to propel our Remembrance light years beyond any separation- and mind-based activity/pursuit that we’ve created here. So yes, I fully agree that the Arts are a form of telepathy from this standpoint; and in that, I now have the answer to those I know, and to those whose paths I continue to cross, when they doubt the “validity of their existence” because as they pursue their spirituality, and their heart opens to and wants to express itself via this set of tools.

It’s one of the MOST important things for us to pursue… in helping ourselves, and in helping others Remember our connectedness. Are you up to the task of its purity? Just allow…