Beyond the Misnomer of “Being Happy vs. Being Right”

RightWrongIn the 5-minute drive on the way home from the gym early this morning, I was listening to a conversation between two radio personalities; it was a man and a woman talking about how important it is to get to the place of “being happy vs. being right” in a relationship. I’ve recently seen a lot of quotes around this on social media, too.

I know it’s well meant – finding a way to get from a place of battling and competition to a place of peace in a relationship – however, from a higher consciousness perspective, such a strategy is only partially productive, and it can often shift our limitations to a completely different and just as self-limiting of an angle instead of liberating us from them, to truly allow ourselves to exist in happiness, both individually and together.

Let’s shift this… just… a… little… bit… by considering a few points that are often overlooked in this context:

  • “Right” and “wrong” are judgments created and held by the ego via separation/duality and the filter of one’s individual journey. Thus, the perception of such is different from individual to individual. When we base any decision on “who’s right” or “who’s wrong,” we’re doing so on a very personal, filtered, judgmental basis. In actuality, it’s comparing apples to oranges!When looking at it from this perspective, it’s exclusionary and limiting to judge someone else’s truth (and thus, their “right” and “wrong”) based on our own! No matter what the relationship, if we’re doing that, we’re holding the other individual to a standard that we hold based on a sum of experiences that they haven’t had (even if you’ve been married for 50 years); we’re also expecting them to make our truth more important than their own! Ultimately, it’s not the job of anyone else to hold the truth of our journey… only their own.We’ve fully saturated ourselves in this separation-based power struggle; in doing so, we’ve decided that we value ourselves based on others following what we personally believe to be “right” and “wrong,” and what “battles” we’ve won… or often, how we’ve managed to assert our truth onto someone else.

    One of the biggest limiting habits we hold in this context is that we often

    a) force our own belief/experience of what is “right” onto someone else, in the effort to make them accept it as their own, or

    b) allow someone else to project and enforce their own belief/experience of what is “right” onto ourselves, essentially giving up that piece of our own truth and journey as not as important or valuable as the other person’s.

    It’s a constant swing of the pendulum in many traditional relationships, in any presentation via this existence of duality. Mine, yours, yours, mine, etc. Change of power, change of situation, change of individual filters… and it swings yet again, often off in a different direction.

  • What “being happy” in a relationship actually means. We often focus so much effort and energy on making another person happy in a relationship that we forget the primary importance of our own happiness. I can’t tell you how many clients I’ve seen who, when I ask what makes them happy, they reply, “Making my ______ (spouse, kids, family, etc.) happy.” (And make no assumptions here; I’ve heard this from men just as often as I’ve heard it from women!)Energetically speaking, putting the importance of someone else’s happiness above our own  energetically says that our own happiness – and thus, our own journey – isn’t as important as someone else’s. This is also most often well-meant, with the belief that this shows how much we care or love them; however, it’s still exclusionary and limiting to at least one person in the party! This might be fine for a few weeks, a few months, a few decades… however, at some point, the pile of self-sacrifice will get so big – even built on what often starts out as small – that it will create a personal crisis, and/or a crisis in the relationship, because the relationship becomes so emotionally imbalanced that something breaks. This manifests in a variety of ways, for one or both parties involved: It can lead to depression, adultery, anger/animosity, heightened self-esteem issues, and on the other end, toddler-like entitlement (at the expense of the other) and overdominance. These are the points at which many of my clients come in to see me; they often have a long, built up resentment of the partner, of themselves, of the relationship, or any/all of the above!

HoldinghandsSo, what would be the higher perspective of this? How would we evolve our relationships beyond this, for a truly enjoyable, high vibrational experience?

  1. Find, know, and continuously cultivate your own happiness, first and foremost. So often, I start with asking someone, “What brings you pure joy – without dependence on another person to give it to you (like a child, spouse, etc.)?” There are a surprising amount of people I’ve encountered who don’t even know the answer to that simple question! I often have to refrain the question to, “If you were all by yourself, and you could do anything you wanted to be happy with the exception of having other people around you, what would you do?”And still, sometimes I get a blank look and, after a pause, the guilty confession: “I don’t know.”When we board an airplane, we have to listen to the safety guidelines at the beginning of the flight. What does the flight attendant say about those oxygen masks, should they fall from the ceiling? “Secure the oxygen mask on yourself first, before helping anyone sitting next to you…” 

    This is a GREAT analogy about finding our own happiness; the kind that comes from within. Another one is that eventually, a well runs dry when it’s not nourished and rejuvenated regularly. How can we give a true outpouring of love to others if we only have a limited amount of love within ourselves?

    Also, as much as it’s important to know what makes you happy… it’s just as important to DO what makes you happy! Do you like sunrises? The ocean? Going for a walk around a lake? Stopping in a flower garden to admire the flowers? Do you have a hobby or anything you like to do that stills the mind and opens the heart? When was the last time you did anything of the sort to immerse yourself in the experience? It’s only important that YOU do it (and completely optional for anyone else to do it with you); expecting a partner to like everything you do is, again, projecting your “truth” onto them. Likewise for them; it’s only important that they take time to do the things that bring them joy, as well… free of expectation that you have to do it with them!

    Of course, part of a relationship is sharing, so experiencing together is great; maybe you both have many commonalities in what brings you joy… and you can of course explore that together, too!

    Overall, remember the sense of self-love (which means honoring your own journey) is the heightened vibration with which to come to a relationship; if we make it a priority to nurture, nourish, and grow our own happiness, we come to a relationship with the vibration of purely enjoying the other person, vs. needing them to fill some gap we believe we have, and vice versa.

  2. Honor each other’s journey and each other’s truth, without judging what’s “right” and “wrong.” Sounds easy, right? Yet, it can be one of the most limiting dances we play with each other in a relationship! Can we disagree? Absolutely! It’s actually very healthy for both in a relationship to stand in their truth, even when it’s different from each other. When we honor each other as having the perfect journey for our purposes, we come to the table respecting each other and in partnership – equally – while respecting ourselves (which comes from a strong sense of self-love; thus, see number 1, above!). The key is to know our own truth, be confident in it, and still consider and honor the truth of someone else, even if it’s different.That’s when we really begin to listen – and hear – to each other.When we come to the relationship from a conscious perspective of self-love and mutual respect, we’re actually more open to disagreement and seeing things from a higher perspective, to more easily come to a middle ground where each individual still gets to maintain their truth while functioning together to agree upon what’s highest and best in that situation that plays out together.
  3. Shifting the focus of our negative emotions from projecting/blaming another to taking responsibility for our own trigger points and negative emotions. No one makes us feel a certain emotion – regardless of what they do – except for ourselves! So ultimately, it goes back to self-awareness and self-love: If we’re good with ourselves and where we are, the other person can leave the toothpaste cap all they want, they can leave their dirty clothes anywhere, and it will all be just fine!Try this next time you get irritated at someone else: Ask yourself, “Why do I care?” Keep on asking that question (questions to the questions) until you get to a place of full self-responsibility; it often comes down to beliefs around self-worthiness (self-love, or lack of) in some way, shape, or form!

These are some very basic ways we can fundamentally change our relationships, away from the separation-based version to the unity-based version. Instead of considering relationships – all of them – as a battle of some sort, a hierarchy of some sort, what if we came to the table in a place of love, unity, and mutual respect? Then instead of spending so much energy asserting or sacrificing, we allow ourselves and each other to be the best each of us can be in the reflection of our relationship!

If you’re looking for help with any of this, whether for yourself only or in a relationship, contact me for some sessions! I’ve worked with a number of individuals and couples to help them navigate through the relationship matrix in a very different manner than is traditional; away from a place of limitation and lower vibration to a place of joy, collaboration, and higher spiritual consciousness.

On Shopping on Thanksgiving and PresenCE

PresentsIn many ways, my 19-year-old is just like I was at her age: strong-willed, precocious, and opinionated! She’s a VERY active and passionate participant in conversations and actions around equality and rights across the board, including gender, sexual preference, race… you name it. She’s also knowledgeable and very much an advocate of the environment, living in an integrated, healthy way. Basically, for quite awhile now, she’s verbally been ready to “right all of the wrongs of the world”! Sometimes, her limitation is that she can even be oversensitive to such topics, to the point that she’ll shut down in judgment and righteousness in the middle of a conversation because she’s so ignited and passionate about what’s being discussed (vs. being a productive contribution to the discussion).

She has quite the spark and fire! My husband and I have always had great conversations around these topics in our household, striving always to share a perspective on the bigger picture; overall, it’s great to know that our children are both such advocates in support of many of the things we also support… save for some maturity, temperance, and acceptance with a view of the larger picture that will naturally develop over time and experience and further assist in their clarity and motivation in a productive way.

This introduction to my daughter is to share with you her overall temperament before I talk about the actual topic at hand. It’s because she’s such a blatantly verbal advocate of such things that this created such a perfect scenario for discussion… and it’s not just a great lesson for her, but for everyone else, as well.

Part of our evolution and spiritual development – sometimes, what’s seemingly the most challenging part – is getting past the habits that we’ve repeated so many times over the eons that we’re often blind to them within ourselves. This is the fine print of consciousness, remembrance, and spiritual development – it’s truly “walking the walk” – remembering the whole picture in every choice that we make; remembering the interconnectedness of everything we do, that we, expressed as ourselves, have a plethora of individual lessons that are intertwined with the lessons of many others and of our collective, larger consciousness, as well.

While she’s in college, she’s been working a retail job part-time, and has been an exemplary employee. Last year, she had to work on Christmas Eve, and she was really upset about it since we have a multitude of Christmas Eve traditions we’ve developed over the years as a family. Being newly conscious of the choice between work and fun/nurturing with her family, she was very vocal about having to work on a holiday… and became hyper-aware of those having to do the same. She’s been a great support to those she works with ever since, being part of the coverage when something personal has come up for them (and vice versa).

Last night, after our Thanksgiving dinner and gathering was mostly concluded, she excused herself to go to a friend’s house with her boyfriend because it was the friend’s birthday. Later on, she texted me that they’d decided to go and “try out the shopping.”

When she got home later in the evening, I half-jokingly mentioned to her my disappointment that after all of her campaigning against retail having to work on holidays because of corporate greed and cultural manipulation… that she would essentially participate as part of the issue. Even though I was purposefully gentle in the pronouncement (because I knew it would hit home with her), she looked at me as if I’d slapped her, and her face immediately got red. She defended, “Oh, come on… you’ve participated in Black Friday shopping before…” To which I replied, “Yes, BLACK FRIDAY… which has been ‘a thing’ for a long time. However, TODAY is Thanksgiving… a day that we take a break, enjoy each other, and have gratitude for what’s in our lives. It’s not a shopping day; it’s a together day. You’ve now fed into what you so passionately speak against just by going to the stores and participating… because those people manning the stores are working instead of enjoying the day, enjoying the moment and enjoying themselves and others around them in a breath of presence as part of the holiday.”

Her response to that, “I had no choice.” (Implying that it’s what her friend wanted to do.)

My response: “You ALWAYS have a choice.” 

That ended the conversation; she got up and left the room. I wasn’t abrupt or condescending about it; I was simply pointing out to her what she so righteously and readily points out in others all the time. Her defensive reaction was definitely a trigger to her being aware of her own inauthenticity in the situation; I was guided to even gently bring it up as I did because this is a valuable lesson at this juncture in her life, at the brink of adulthood and being in conscious awareness of her own impact on the world – of the Universe – around her.

My daughter is an intuitive, intelligent, beautiful, caring, and passionate person… and 95% of the time, she’s there. Most of the time she gets it; that’s the point of me telling you all of this, because it’s an important interchange, an important experience that shows how easy it is to just be unconscious – even if just for one act, one moment – and follow others and what’s outside of the Self because it’s convenient… even for someone who is typically very conscious of what goes on around them and that interconnectedness. And how, in that one act, what the ego might rationalize as relatively unimportant (and convenient in the moment), when fed into by numerous others via the same “little” act, causes it to become part of a much bigger message that affects (and limits) the many vs. the few.

I’m not judging her; it was, in fact, her choice. However, I know that it’s not aligned with her authentic self and what she believes (the next time she mentions such injustices… I might very well remind her that she’s fed the fire herself!  😉 ). And, as with all interactions, it causes me to look in the mirror to see where this might be a reminder to be and stay fully conscious of my own actions, in all ways, at all times!

It’s a great reminder of how even the most conscious of us will ourselves to go “on automatic” or lock our consciousness – and sometimes our vigilance – in the closet temporarily often in the effort of a) the convenience of being exclusionary – “It’s not alright for me, but it’s OK for others, and/or b) being accepted by others, because of the individual belief that we need acceptance of others to be worthy, and that we have to have shared experiences to be accepted. It’s the same set of beliefs around the well-known adage of “misery loves company.”

We’ve all done it as part of this exclusionary existence; it’s been part of the lessons of separation and duality.

We’re not victim to others; we’re not victim to corporations… or institutions… or governments… it’s all our creation. Therefore, it’s also our choice to feed the frenzy… or not. It’s our choice to exist in a higher consciousness, aware of our interconnectivity… or not. And ultimately, it’s all OK… as long as we accept and take responsibility for creating that… ALL of it. We create it; we can change it. If we’re going to feed a creation… then we can’t claim to be victim to it; and we can’t be surprised when the reflection of whatever it brings to you later hits home to you in another, typically unexpected way.

The more conscious we are, the more in remembrance we exist, the more we realize that every single action we take reflects back to us; this is the former perception of, “what goes around comes around”… but instead of “being victim to” karma, it’s simply remembering that what we create in a Universe around us simply reflects what’s within us back to ourselves, and it will get louder and louder until we look at it straight on in the mirror.

As we embark on the end-of-year holiday season – regardless of individual practices and beliefs – let’s try something different than what’s typically “the norm”: Instead of being panicked about finances, panicked about having the “perfect gift” or an “expensive enough gift” to ensure someone else thinks highly of us, what if we purely focused on the gentle love and acceptance of ourselves? What if we blessed ourselves and others around us with the gift – worth more than anything in the physical – of being present with our Self, and with others, without expectations or judgment? This is what consciousness, awareness, and remembrance is all about. This is how we “walk the walk,” and do it differently… taking away the need to give away our power to others to gain “love” from outside of us because we don’t hold that within ourselves. If we do that – if we can remember the simple act of self love and authenticity – then everything around us will simultaneously change for the much, much better, as well.. and we’ll realize how powerful each one of us really is.

 

 

The Heart of World Matters

HeartWorldOver the past number of years, I’ve had repeated glimpses into what we’re creating in this world… and glimpses of what’s to come. I haven’t publicly spoken about it much in terms of the literal picture to more than a few others… because visions can be metaphorical, they can be representations, they can be from other timelines, and most of all, they can distract us from looking at what’s right in front of us, in this moment… because it’s this moment that’s what counts, what exists, what presence is all about.

Until recently, those who’ve asked me what I’ve “seen” of the future, and/or if what I see is the same as ____________ [insert any name here] who has published their own visions, have typically gotten a reply from me about THIS moment instead.

From the beginning of what I call my “Grand Awakening,” when being “reminded” of what I ultimately came here to do, I was shown – or rather, helped to remember – what we have planned here at this time… as we finally complete the cycle of peaking in remembrance without crashing from lessons of the ego (which we’ve done a number of times over the eons).

One of the most challenging things for the ego to allow is the remembrance that our entire existence, all that is around us, is our creation. It’s full self-responsibility – lucid dreaming on a Universal scale, that we are the Dreamer as much as the Dreamed. The Divine Consciousness (or any one of a handful of other names) expressed as who we are. More and more, we’re even creating discoveries in our sciences – particularly quantum physics – that show us this in a way that the analytical mind can better accept, including researched proof (over and over) that intention creates our reality, and that love within is THE healer and true, interminable power of all.*

We just forget that in the exploration of separation… especially when we’ve forgotten that we are the Dreamer, with many, many different dreams, simultaneously running within the larger ones (think about the movie “Inception” to the max!).

We are all One, split up into the innumerable facets of this amazing, Universal gemstone. Here, incarnate on Earth, the part of our individual consciousness that resides in the physical body forgets that… that’s been a part of the game, part of this experiment of extreme separation, of creation via separation.

We’re at the verge of the end of yet another cycle; and so, the question many who are consciously aware of it ask is, How do we do it differently this time, to finish this once and for all?

Some have believed that we wouldn’t need some sort of collective catalyst to help wake us up within the dream; my understanding has been that we would… it just depended on the size of the catalytic event or set of events that had to happen. AND – most of all – that to break the cycle, to complete this and move on, what would be different wouldn’t be to avert the catalyst, but simply to act differently through it.

Yes, some have chosen to “wake up” later on in the game, but we put the catalyst in place to ensure that the hangers on would have quite the loud alarm clock… and still have a chance to adjust and align all consciousness within the whole to move forward.

For the past several years, I’ve received the message, again and again, to remain the calm in the storm. I’ve had trial after trial around me, I’ve taught it (or reminded it) to others who’ve been waking up to who we all are.

That message has repeated itself to me again and again. The purpose? If one stays the calm in the storm, remembering that regardless of what we see around us is a dream, and we are all but one Divine Consciousness… then we can stay in a place of clarity, acceptance, and love… knowing that all is perfect, trusting that we know exactly where we’re to be, and when, to optimize what one would call the ultimate soul’s purpose. Ultimate attainment!

All that I’ve been guided to teach – connecting to one’s own Higher Self via quieting the chatter of the ego (which was created to explore separation and identity) – as simple as it is (meditate, meditate, meditate) is the answer… because it allows us to remember that we already have full access/remembrance to all of the answers within us!

Staying the quiet in the storm means allowing the stillness to remain within, always. Stillness allows us the conscious remembrance and connection to our Higher Consciousness, the Higher Consciousness of the Universe… and the higher in consciousness, the purer the answer comes in love, which in essence, is Truth.

For the past several weeks, the consistent message about staying the calm in the storm shifted slightly, to BE unconditional love, always… all thoughts, words, and deeds. And the only way to truly do that is to fully accept and embrace that each one of us is equally Divine, equally worthy, and equally a message – expressed as who we are and what we do – as a facet of the whole. Each of us has a very different reminder to bring to all of us, as the mirror back to what’s within, as the Dreamer. 

The more self-exploration, the more resolution, the more acceptance, peace, and love we can explore and employ within ourselves (some would call that healing, but I simply call it remembrance), the more that is reflected back to us from what’s in the world around us.

Hate doesn’t “cure” hate. Violence doesn’t solve anything; it creates more separation. The glorification and romanticism of militaries going off to kill one people in sacrifice for “protection” of another – because of a belief of what’s “right” and what’s “wrong” (including religious beliefs) – only ultimately grows separation and hate through killing; we’ve proven that again and again. I’ve worked with a number of military and ex-military with PTSD from the internal battle they have within themselves, because even though they’ve at some time bought the excuse and propaganda that killing some to “protect” others is right, there’s a part of them that knows they’re still killing others. So, then… why do we continue to perpetuate it? War will never be the answer to love and peace… we’ve repeated THAT lesson again and again! The way to truly shifting to a peaceful way is to remember that beyond these meat jackets we call physical bodies, we are all the same, that we are all of the Divine Consciousness, the Dreamer of the Dream… and even what the ego judges and considers the most despicable individuals are also a part of our Self. Time to embrace that, too.

Time to turn the tables, release the idea of victimhood, and ask ourselves, “If having is an indication of wanting (meaning I have something in my reality because I created it)… then why would I want to create this in my reality?”

THAT’S what’s for us to do differently!

From the higher perspective, we never just have a Game Plan A, B, and C… we actually have far, far more than that; more like down to and beyond Game Plan WWWW, XXXX, YYYY, and ZZZZ….and every step along the way that we ignore the messages, the bigger the reminder gets. It starts within each individual, then ramps up to groups, communities, and eventually the entire collective of Earth, and beyond. I don’t know about you… but I’d prefer the little reminders, myself, vs. what I call the explosions! Thus, the true importance of looking within to change all that is based in separation and resistance – fear, anger, regret, resentment, anxiety, guilt, doubt, sorrow, pain, judgment, shame, frustration – is vital, if we’d prefer to prevent the “big bang.” And, even though things are getting a bit heated on the collective level in the 3D, there’s always the opportunity to shift its volume and impact via what we do when we stop projecting what’s inside onto others, and instead looking in the mirror at ourselves, first and foremost.

So, many ask, “What you’re saying is that those who have died, those who are considered the perpetrators, volunteered to do this, created this themselves… and they are both the same?” Yes. They’re me; and they’re you. They are the pieces – the individuals – who stepped up and said, “Yes! If we get to Plan ______ and we need to start having collective reminders, I will be one who takes part in that play!” To them, we owe a mountain of gratitude and love… for taking on the role they agreed to take on.

The best way to honor them for their role is to turn our focus back in on ourselves; to shift from a place of separation to a place of perceiving the whole, and of coming from a place of love in knowing that, always. Accepting all as the crucial note in the symphony of this experience that they are, including your Self… and knowing for as many options to play out as there are in response via separation, that the one via unity – that of love – is far stronger, has more true impact, and essentially renders violence, hate, and fear useless, recognizing them as the illusion that they are.

Mari is the basic name of the goddess found throughout the Mediterranean region, and Isis-Mari is her Egyptian name. Like Mary of the Christian tradition, she is a vast cosmic sky goddess as well as an earth mother goddess. In the Egyptian tradition, she was associated with a star which was the source of love and light radiating from her heart.

Mari is the basic name of the goddess found throughout the Mediterranean region, and Isis-Mari, or just Isis, is her Egyptian name. Like Mary of the Christian tradition, she is a vast cosmic sky goddess as well as an earth mother goddess. In the Egyptian tradition, she was associated with a star which was the source of love and light radiating from her heart.

In backing up and looking at the much, much larger picture, I actually find it so incredible how we have this message smacking ourselves right in the face. How, you ask? Well… it is the TRUE energy of unification – the Oneness – that is represented by the Universal Divine Mother. It’s that energy within us and of which we exist that reminds us that the true answer is in unity, in looking within and remembering our Oneness and unconditional love. And here on Earth, we are at a point where we have SUCH a literal representation of the reminder of the Divine Mother via the name of the one of the currently prominent terrorist groups – ISIS – when the Ancient Goddess Isis is a representation of the Divine Mother in the form of a reminder (a big, honking mirror to us) of the importance of spiritual development within through the representation of such a lack of that. Could we be more literal???

The world events are just beginning to ramp up, as the alarm clock goes off; I understand this is just the beginning; it will get louder and more intrusive the longer we ignore it… and there’s no snooze button anymore!!! The resounding message: Do it differently; look within instead of projecting without. Remember that if we weren’t a part of this in some way… then it wouldn’t be created. Self responsibility is remembering that as we are the Dreamer as well as the Dreamed… and also that we CAN change the dream, at any time! First and foremost, our biggest priority is finding/remembering self-love, acceptance, and redirecting the ego’s job from that of separation and projection to one of ensuring that all thought, word, and deed support remembering, existing in, creating from, and emanating the Oneness in unconditional love while still maintaining the individuals that we are. Yes, it will take some focus; yes, it will take looking in the mirror at what the ego has formerly perceived as pretty uncomfortable stuff. Ultimately, it’s our quickest path to transcending this experience of such extreme separation, war, and (self-)destruction to take a new path – finally – and see what our new creation can bring in a much higher vibration!

 

Need assistance? It’s my life’s dedication to help others help themselves, to remember their Divinity, that we are ALL the psychic/intuitive and the healer… that we “heal” ourselves, that we create our own reality… and to help get past blocks based in traditional beliefs that limit our experience. Ready to change, to “get to the next level,” and explore the freedom of limitlessness? See my upcoming Self Development via Divine Consciousness class in January 2016,  packages and sessions pages… and get started today; I’d love to work with you! 

 

* There is a LOT of literature and research results around this; one such well-documented and discussed is The Intention Experiment, by Lynne McTaggart, and resulting research via the Institute of Noetic Sciences)

Having Some Tough Moments? Hours? Days? How to Shift from that…

ThisMomentWe’re going through a lot of deep, deep releasing of that which doesn’t serve us right now, both collectively and individually. We’re letting go of what’s left of the “old 3D” and the “old way of doing things”… which, in many cases, is causing what the ego perceives as a LOT of upheaval in day-to-day life, whether it’s losing a job or a home, releasing old relationships, manifesting a chronic or potentially terminal illness… forcing us to look dead on at whatever’s left to release… to open the door for change and higher vibration living to come.

And it’s accelerating, so we can get to the “even better stuff”!

The way we experience this shifting and crumbling away of all of this old facade is completely up to us as individuals. We can try to hold on, white-knuckled, because we’re afraid of change and the unknown… or we can let go, transcend the “crumbling,” and allow ourselves to flow with it, thus embracing the next steps of this adventure.

I know, it sounds simple! And yet, for many, there’s a lot of fear and kicking and screaming, with white-knuckled holding on, even as it all melts away. Even those of us who are more adept at staying in the flow have moments of being overwhelmed when we allow ourselves to get caught up in it… and have the moments of trying hold on, with feelings of, “Can I really do this? Can WE REALLY do this?”

My guidance, in those moments, is to simply re-center myself, close my eyes, take a deep breath, feel the Divine light coming through from my heart, spread it out through my body and beyond… and remember PRESENCE. In those moments, I also say to myself, “There is ONLY this moment… and in THIS moment, I choose Love.”

Sometimes I have to say it several times until I feel it “kick in”… and it ALWAYS helps! The importance, in the most ego-based, resistance-based moments, is to be observant of such, and transcend beyond what the 3D looks like… going back to our NATURAL state of Oneness and Love. Whether we need to do it one day at a time… one hour at a time… or one moment at a time… it’s re-training ourselves to remember the illusion is just that… illusion, all for the purpose of the greater lesson we set out for ourselves.

As always… please share, below and with others who may need this; we’re all here together! 

Much, much love to you,
Angela

Traumatized? Downtrodden? Tired? A Love Note to You on What’s Crumbling Away…

I’ve been working on another post about where so many are, in feeling like they’re going through their version, in some way, shape, or form, of “the dark night of the soul”… and other activities have precluded me from finishing it thus far.  However… this morning, ONE of my Facebook friends posted this quote that just sums it up right now; I can’t remember who posted it, and I can’t remember whose quote it was, either; however, I’d highlighted the text and copied it, walked away from the computer, and came back; luckily, it was in memory on my computer, so I at least have that… AND with the help of this, a short post that I can publish, because it’s obviously VERY IMPORTANT for as many of us to get this message out as possible right now!

The meaning is JUST PERFECT in so many ways, in terms of what’s going on:

“[I]f you know the wisdom of the dark night, then you are looking out for protection. You’re aware that through this terror, protection will be given. This is the universal testimony. They mystics have gone through this process. It’s the testimony of Rumi. It’s the testimony of the great shamans. You are given tremendous divine protection, because as the human is being destroyed, the divine consciousness comes up. So one side of you is being annihilated, but the other side is stronger than ever in the ashes. So great dreams will come and light will become more and more vibrant. The divinity of life will become more and more naked to you. Miracles will take place to protect you. To anybody who comes to this path, the divine is both extremely ferocious and extremely tender. Ferocious to destroy the illusions, but tender to give the human being the courage to hang in there and do the work.”

Now, that being said… some clarity from my perspective; words, no matter how well written, are simply filters of the understandings. So, as I infuse this post with the understanding behind the words, here are some words to clarify, too!

How we see what’s typically used as negative terms are only perceived that way because of the ego. For example, “ferocious” is a relative term, and the ego often perceives it with negative connotations. However, if you see the word as meaning “with incredible gusto”… LOL… this is how I see it, especially in this context!

The reason so many of us are going through some very, very trying times is because that which doesn’t serve us is falling away… whether the ego kicks and screams about it (and thus, the “terror” of the ego), or whether we surrender to it with grace and ease. What is meant by “that which doesn’t serve us is falling away”?  Just that… relationships, home situations, jobs, institutions, governments… you name it! Not only everything that limits us, but also everything that feels comfortable… and prevents us from pressing ahead, from stepping into the Divine greatness each and every one of us has to offer. So many are entrenched and love the drama addiction of the 3D world; the ego-driven part of us, individually and collectively, would rather just continue putting one Band-Aid on top of another because it’s a “known evil” – and the ego rationalizes that a known evil is far more “safe” than the unknown! However, we’ve completed these lessons in separation – and the Band-Aid tower is falling – because we’re done with this level of duality, and so it just doesn’t serve us anymore. So the Higher Selves of all are saying, “YAY! We’re finishing this up! Time to really clean house…”

Ultimately, we can experience/process lessons in terror and suffering, OR grace and ease. Yep, ALL of them. It’s a personal choice; we’re just remembering that! Personally, I prefer the latter (I’ve had my fill of suffering throughout this existence, and I’m GLAD to be DONE with it! LOL); however, I accept and honor that some prefer the former; though I also recognize that many don’t yet remember that we CAN change that; so I’m going to tell you here that it REALLY IS our CHOICE… I PROMISE!

When we go through a LOT of our old, comfortable reality falling away – as we are doing now – it can feel terrible and draining if we choose see/experience it that way. Why? Well, it depends on how hard the ego wants to hang on to what’s falling away… because if we hang on, it will get more and more and more traumatic until the situation just explodes/crumbles so we have no choice but to release it, once and for all. It’s important to remember that when we’re holding on to something, to some situation, and it tries harder and harder to slip away, and we try harder and harder to hold on… that we’re expending far more energy in holding on to it (and/or putting a Band-Aid on it) than if we’d just clear/heal what’s preventing us from letting go (because often we just forget that we CAN let go, and that it’s OK to do so!). Once we do… most of the time we look back and wonder why we held on for so long, why we wasted so much energy… because we’re exhilarated by SOARING in the freedom of releasing those burdens that were holding us down!

In the context of this quote, as I understand it, “Divine protection” is the realization that it’s ALL an illusion… and that actually, there’s nothing to be protected from; all we see, experience, is a play we have created to play out the lessons we’ve desired to play out. When we let the illusion fall away, and remember that we’ve not only been the puppets in the play, but also the Creator, writer, producer, AND stage director… we ultimately remember that we’ve ALWAYS been the Divine, we ALWAYS will be… and that everything else is simply a facade. Thus, “protection” is not as the ego perceives it – which is the need to put up a shield, only perpetuating the perception of separation – rather, it is simply realization of the Truth, which is that there is only unconditional love, and that we are One and always have been… and ALL OF THE REST is simply a dream. The “side that comes out of the ashes”… is simply full remembrance of all of this, in all-powerful, unconditional love of the Divine, AS the Divine expressed as who we are. SO beautiful!

So, on that, as we progress so exponentially through all of this shifting and evolving, here’s my love note to you:

I want you to know that no matter how lonely you may feel, no matter how solitary your journey may seem, that you’re not alone. We’re here to ALL BE IN THIS TOGETHER. There’s so, so, SO much love supporting you, at all levels, at all times… you’ve just forgotten how to feel it! You ARE worthy, deserving, and able to free yourself of the chains that bind you – regardless of what the ego perceives in the 3D reality – and we’re all here to support each other in this process of letting go of the illusion of separation.

We’re at the climax of this magnificent symphony… which we ALL ORCHESTRATED TOGETHER, as One. It’s the most beautiful, complex, phenomenal symphony imaginable… and we ALL have a very individual, VERY important role to play as a part of the whole. When you remember it, as I have, the beauty and enormity of it – of us – will bring freely flowing tears of  explosive joy and love!

I love you… yes, of course I do… as you are me, and I am you! As the Mayans say in greeting, “In lak’ech ala k’in”… or “I am another you.” It’s SO IMPORTANT for us to remember that!

Let go, accept all with love, and step forward, into your Truth, into the love of your Being… I am there with you, every step of the way. We are ALWAYS together, never apart; just open your heart, and you’ll know I am there. That’s where we ALL are.

Unconditionally,
Angela

P.S. I guess I got my blog done after all…