Unpacking the Boxes of Our Perception
In my household, we’ve always been purposeful in bringing up my two children (who are now on the cusp of 19 and 17) in an inclusionary way. We’ve stayed away from describing people via DIFFERENCES, and instead focused on celebrating our SIMILARITIES. We’ve stayed away from focusing on any perception of lack – from ourselves and/or others – and instead have mostly focused on the awesome things about everyone we know.
The other day, my oldest was talking about someone she knows, and started referring to the person via what she perceives is their parents’ income bracket. This was new, and a huge surprise to me, as we have friends from all throughout the spectrum of income, and it’s pretty much never before been a topic of conversation in our household. I asked her why it mattered and how she even knew any of that beyond her own supposition, and she said, “Well, it doesn’t matter… I’ve just observed this…” Without any qualifying reason for it to have been part of discussion. And then I realized, in her young adulthood, though she has a solid foundation from our household, she of course has influence via her access to the rest of the world, via college, work, and friends… and our household is STILL a rarity.
News flash: Our culture – and our experience through this experience of duality – has created an obsession with categories – what I call “boxes” – that limit us or others, that put us in an invisible hierarchy and perceptions of superiority and/or lack based on nothing but the illusions we create! And, BIGGER news flash: It’s time to let that go!
How much money someone makes, what kind of house someone lives in, what kind of car someone drives, what kind of clothes someone wears (and where they shop), what kind of food they eat, combined with hierarchies around gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, age, political beliefs (by the way, typically based on all of the above), weight, hair and eye color, attractiveness, the list goes on and on… and on. We often categorize and judge someone (ourselves included) based on any or all of the above, and yet we judge it in comparison to our PERSONAL filters of judgment around each of those categories.
Why do we continue to judge ourselves and others in this way? From my perspective and understanding, our physical bodies, our physical circumstances, and everything around us is perfect for the lessons we, as individual souls, would like to complete. We write, produce, direct, and act in the play of our own device, as part of the same of the collective, bigger picture that we collectively write, product, direct, and act in.
In duality, we take pride in the “that” and “not that.” We’ve done boxes in an extraordinary way! However, it’s important to remember that when we’re done with a particular set, we throw the script away, take off the costumes, take off the “meat suits,” or whatever suit our consciousness has currently chosen… we are simply equally awesome parts of the Divine Consciousness. WE’RE ALL THAT! Then we progress to write, produce, direct, and act in yet another play for ANOTHER set of lessons.
In my practice, I see a full spectrum of income, beliefs, race, gender, lifestyles, backgrounds, you name it… I have friends across the spectrum, as well. Yet, none of that matters to me, in the least – if anything, it makes my experience all the more colorful with such a variety! What DOES matter to me the MOST is, are they unhappy or happy in their current experience? That’s all that’s my concern; underneath everything else, beyond all of the boxes, all I see is an incredible, Divine being that is also a reflection of me in some way, from some time. When I see everyone that way, how can I help but just sit in a space of love for everyone else?
My goal, in helping others, is to help them remember their happiness, how to live in bliss… whatever picture that paints for THEM. When we do that, our Divine Truth and ultimate soul’s purpose naturally comes through, regardless of what the 3D looks like to others! AND… ultimately, EVERYONE can achieve their own happiness, once they realize they’re allowed to in whatever picture THEY desire.
When we do that, we begin seeing our similarities, and honoring the color that our different journeys create. We enjoy ourselves and each other more fully, and reach out, heart to heart, in a much higher vibration, in pure connection. We share, rather than hoard; we love, rather than fear; we identify, rather than isolate.
I remember seeing somewhere one of the first astronauts who said that from outer space, the Earth is simply that… Earth. No political boundaries, no separation… just a beautiful planet, as part of this amazing solar system. Time for us to remember each other in the same way, in full acceptance as part of the magnificent, Divine Oneness that we are.